Small Steps Can Lead To Big Change

I saw a video recently on YouTube that inspired this article. It was beyond amazing. The link is below, at the end of this article. Watch the video until the very end.

Watching this video got me thinking about how we believe that change is hard, difficult. That in order to effect great change, we must make a big move, take a big step, do something outrageously daring in order for things to happen, in order to shift our lives in a new direction.

So we do nothing because we believe that we have to do something so big and so unfamiliar from the way we normally operate that the thought of doing so scares the beetlejuice out of us. And so we wait. And wait. And wait some more. And nothing gets done, no change happens, no growth occurs because we’re afraid of going where we haven’t been, of taking action, or, rather, taking NEW, unfamiliar, action.

And thus we continue to get what we’ve gotten because we keep doing what we’ve done. Unhappy but too afraid of what that step towards change will look like, we continue to wish and hope while staying with the status quo.

It’s not true. Big change does not require a big step.

If you’ve been reading my newsletter or blog for a while, you know I’m all about being real. In one of my past newsletters, I wrote about stepping up and being the person I want to be now, today. Not next month or next year, but TODAY. Because, in order to have the life that I want, I must BE the person that can have that life.

If you’re familiar with the law of attraction, you know that in it’s simplest form it’s about like attracting like.  The Tracy that has a huge business is NOT the Tracy I am right now. It’s not possible with the me that I am now, but it is possible with the me that will be. (Hmmm…I’m channeling Dr. Seuss, lol). But the amount of growth required for me to become that future me doesn’t have to take 10 years. It can happen quickly, in a quantum leap.

You see, many of us feel that certain things are harder to do than others. We think that it will take a monumental effort to change. But what if that was a lie? What if that was a lie we tell ourselves to keep us from stepping forward into the life we want? That life will be different, it will be unknown. And it is the job of our ego to keep us safe and doing what we’ve always done. That side of ourselves does not like the unknown because it has no control over it.

What if a big monumental effort wasn’t really required at all? What if that one small step led us to the next small step and the next and so on until we are at our destination faster than we ever thought possible?

Energetically, it’s all the same to the universe. My late spiritual mentor used to tell me, “Tracy, it takes as much effort for the universe to form a mountain as it does to create a $10 million business. There is no difference in the amount of energy needed, it’s all the same, regardless of the scope or size of whatever you can imagine. It’s all the same.” And my life experiences have proved this to me over and over again.

So, an astronaut flying to the moon for the first time is considered the same energetically by the universe as the person that has never swam putting that first toe into the ocean. We make it SEEM bigger than it is and take ourselves out of the game. Allowing the fear of what could happen to stop us from the life we truly want.

No longer.

I am drawing a line in the sand. (For you Trekkies, this is when Captain Jean Luc Picard drew his line in the sand, figuratively, against the Borg and said, “This Stops Here!” Love Patrick Stewart!) This putting things off because I think it’s too hard is a load of horse poop and I will not indulge in that mindset anymore.

Here is how I choose to begin: by getting up 45 minutes earlier every morning to practice my own method of radical self love which, for now, is meditating and journaling. Where will this lead? I have no idea. I’m not sure how this next step will take me where I want to go. But I am feeling a persistent, inner urging to become that future me, now, right now, today.

Who are you being called to BE today? And how will you choose to begin that journey? Listen to those inner urgings for they are calling you to that greatness that lies within. That greatness that is calling us to DO, BE, HAVE. That greatness that we try to hide from, try to ignore, because it seems too hard, too difficult, too scary. It really isn’t. Truly. Don’t believe that lie anymore. Try it out. You can always stop and go back to your old ways. But I bet you won’t because once you begin that journey, you’ll realize the truth: that true change doesn’t have to be monumental effort. It just has to be different.

Tomorrow morning, at 3:30am, I’ll be up meditating and journaling and on the road to BEing my future self, today. And, of course, all while wearing lipgloss.

In love, I am

tracy elizabeth

Video Link:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dnDeo0yhIws

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Radical Self Love

LoveOn this journey that I’ve embarked upon, the journey to what I call Living as My Higher Self, I often find myself called to examine areas of my life where I am, well, falling short. In my last article, I wrote about how I was clearing out to allow the new in. New choices, new prosperity, new experiences, a new Me. And that’s a great start. But what has become increasingly clear is that that is exactly what it is, a start. A beginning.

As the journey unfolds, I find it becomes harder. Or maybe harder is not the word. I’m not sure I know what the right word or words are. While letting go of my things, some I love very, very much and don’t really want to part with, there is a part of me that feels more expansive. More ALIVE. Unfettered. I feel a sense of wondrous openness.

Does that make sense?

So I realize that the part that is hanging onto my dearly loved possessions is the me that must expand as well. The me that must operate in partner to my Higher Self. That which I call, Little Me.

As aspects of Little Me bubble up to be witnessed and released, so too my awareness of what lies hidden beneath grows.

I began to wonder, when did it begin? When did I stop caring about myself? When did I stop putting myself first? When did I start believing I was unworthy of self love?

Not taking time for myself, taking time to be alone and just BE, whatever that means for me at that moment is a way I denied myself self love. And I wasn’t simply denying myself self love, I was showing myself I had no value, that I wasn’t worth taking the time to nurture myself.

Please understand, when I say putting myself first, I don’t mean in a selfish, “it’s my way or the highway kind of way.”  That’s not what it’s about. But you cannot give to others if your well is dry and you have nothing to give.

Self love is about committment. It’s about trusting myself. It’s about being able to rely on myself.

I realized that throughout my life, I wasn’t showing up for me. I would promise myself I would do this or that, but I rarely followed through. I would get myself into situations that I thought I could handle, but quickly realized I was in way over my head and I would have to have my husband bail me out. I could never count on myself at all, not unless the situation was extremely dire and then, and only then, would I step up to the plate. And it felt great. I did it! But back I would fall into my old habits of not showing up for myself, forgetting that I had even stepped up in the first place.

Some of you have known me for a very long time and remember when I wouldn’t leave the house without looking a certain way. I studied fashion design, after all, and loved designing, making and wearing my creations. There was a part of me that LOVED caring for myself, using luscious creams and lotions, having my hair done and all that went with being a girly-girl. But it wasn’t just the act of adorning myself, it was the love for myself behind it. The love that said, I am worth the effort. And though this may sound somewhat superficial, it really isn’t.

Not caring how I look, whether I wear wrinkled clothes or not; whether I style my hair, or not; whether I put on some lipgloss, or not: these are all symptoms of a bigger issue.

When did I decide I wasn’t worth the effort? When did I decide I had no value?

In the Bible, verse James 2:26, it reads: For as the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without works is dead also.

All the spiritual work (faith) I’ve been doing is great, but not putting it into practice (works) wasn’t really making my growing awareness tangible–I wasn’t allowing it to become a part of me. I was letting my fear of who I would become, stop me from, well, BEcoming. Because Little Me couldn’t handle not knowing what that looked like, I stayed trapped in the same habits, the same unloving thoughts, the same inaction.

So, even though ironing my clothes or wearing lipgloss may seem superficial, it is how I choose to begin to love and accept myself. It is how I choose to demonstrate, by beginning with these small actions, that I am worthy of self love and worthy of effort.  And these small actions will snowball into even greater awareness of how I can begin showing myself Radical Self Love.

This is the first step of many along the path of showing up for myself in all ways and at all time.  It is the way that I can begin to embody the truth of who I am, truly, WHO MY SOUL IS and will allow me to shine that light behind me. For when I shine that light, I am leading the way so that all who follow step into the light of TRUTH of who THEIR SOUL IS CALLING THEM TO BE. For we are all ONE, and as I grow and expand to embrace ALL THAT I AM, so too, will YOU.

In love, I am

tracy elizabeth